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These are the suggestions from the Moms at our June 3rd Mother’s Tea on Eating Well, Losing Weight and Being Healthy after having a baby:

1. Dieting is safe while nursing (wait until baby is 2 months old) Excellent information can be found at www.kellymom.com

2. Calorie intake 1500 — 1800 per day if nursing

3. If milk is decreasing, need more calories

4. Eat lean meats, non starchy veggies, no refined carbs or sugars or fruit juices (too sugary, but whole fruit is fine)

5. Drink LOTS of water

6. Take time to make quick eating easy (chop veggies ahead of time)

7. Take daily coconut oil (good fats) — stabilizes blood sugar

8. Eat a good protein filled breakfast

9. There are good local food and produce co-ops in the area (Lynchburg Grows, Horse & Buggy )

10. Find “Mommy-friendly” ways to exercise:

  • walking with a partner or trading child care
  • wear your baby in a sling or Kozy Carrier
  • push baby in stroller
  • walk to a playground
  • walk up and down your steps at home

11. Don’t depend on artificial sweeteners and consider eliminating them. Studies are showing people who use them don’t lose weight but actually develop more of a sweet tooth. Learn to drink water more often and teach your children to drink water when thirsty and not always crave something sweet.

Come join us for the second Mother’s Tea on this topic on Saturday, June 20th at 10 AM!

Mother's Tea - June 2009

Mother's Tea - June 2009

Best Start participated in the first Family First Festival at Lynchburg Grows.

Families-First-Photo

Many thanks to Amanda Ramirez from Exceptional Beginnings (www.exceptionalbeginnings.org) for organizing and sponsoring this festival. Baby wearing, cloth diapering, healthy eating were highlighted.

Hopefully this will be an annual event.

Jane

Best Start participated in the first Family First Festival at Lynchburg Grows.

Many thanks to Amanda  Ramirez from Exceptional Beginnings (www.exceptionalbeginnings.org) for organizing and sponsoring this festival.    Baby wearing, cloth diapering, healthy eating were highlighted.

Hopefully this will be an annual event.

Jane

Margaret Wills, a Lactation Consultant on my yahoo group for Private Practice Lactation Consultants wrote this wonderful reply about The Case Against Breastfeeding and has given me permission to use it on our blog. Sometimes other people can find the words that express what I am feeling and trying to say better than I can. Comments?

Margaret Wills

Regarding Hanna Rosin’s article “The Case Against Breast-Feeding”:
Look for the follow-up essay, “The Case Against Placentas.” After all, medical technology can now generally sustain 32-week premature infants — why not induce labor then, so women can be back in the office two months earlier? The author doesn’t see that her argument is the same, nor that her reasoning is backward. Breastfeeding, both the milk and the human interaction of delivering it, is our basic biology and psychology — we don’t have to prove any “advantages” to breastfeeding. The burden of proof is on the new idea — especially if the intervention, needed when our biology has unexpected problems, is being proposed as a new norm. If Rosin is going to cherry-pick scientific studies, without much regard for sample size, funding, and study date and structure, she needs to find valid results that prove formula feeding provides better outcomes — and creates more equality in marriages and the workplace. Good luck with that.

Rosin has a right to be angry — but not at breastfeeding. We need to direct such rage and frustration at a society where breastfeeding has become so difficult that a woman has to be lucky, very dedicated, or very privileged to achieve a basic biological activity. Rosin is able to enjoy her breastfeeding relationship, while writing for major magazines, because she is one of the Manhattan mothers she derides. (And in her warmer closing paragraphs, she admits that maybe scientific studies can’t quantify all human activities.) Meanwhile, Norway can achieve breastfeeding initiation rates approaching 98%, with high female workforce participation, because women get extended, paid family leave and consistent information and support.

Rosin is right that breastfeeding takes time and resources, and the sense that this is an important investment. But we unfairly lay that commitment on the individual woman, when it needs to be shared by the healthcare system and the societal attitudes that surround her. It’s easier to make the choice to breastfeed when it becomes just “what we do.”

Getting up this morning I heard the usual hustle and bustle in the kitchen. My handsome son was up with the children. It was his turn and my dear daughter-in-law was having her morning to sleep in a little longer. They alternate who gets up with the kids. Nice arrangement.
The 7 year old was off on the bus and the other 3 were finishing eating their breakfast. He sat down on the floor and called the twins, now 23 months, to him for their first diaper change of the day. I tell you, I’m proud. This Dad can change a wiggling baby, put on any kind of cloth diaper faster than anybody! Well he’s done it with 4 children now. We’ve gone through all kinds, from prefolds with snappies and the Bummis wraps and now the bumGenius.
I asked him what he thought and without hesitation he said bumGenius were his favorite. They are easy to put on and fit so well. And of course the money saved with diapering twins is very important for their budget. Twins aren’t cheap and disposables for 2 cost close to $100 per month.

This is a great blog about cloth diapers.
http://clothdiapers.blogspot.com/

So many Moms find it a bit daunting to get started, so it is nice to read about other peoples experiences and how to make this easy and positive for everybody. It is the beginning that seems hard, but once you get into the swing of things and pat yourself on the back for saving your family money, reducing what goes into the landfill, reducing your “carbon footprint” you’ll feel great. PLUS we have had so many Moms tell us their baby actually points to the cloth diapers on the changing table rather than the disposables. They FEEL BETTER!! Isn’t that one of the best reasons?

The May Mother’s Teas at Best Start are all about using cloth diapers. Come with your questions and experiences to share.

May 6th and 16th at 10 AM.
Jane

Have you read in The Atlantic Monthly (http://www.theatlantic.com/doc/200904/case-against-breastfeeding) or seen on TV The Case Against Breastfeeding, an article by Hanna Rosin, a breastfeeding mother who questions, no belittles, the benefits of breastfeeding? She claims, from her personal reading, that the scientific proof is not strong or compelling enough for women feel forced to give up their time and energies to breastfeed their children. She speaks of women who choose to formula feed being looked down on by other women. We find the exact opposite at Best Start. Almost daily we have mothers stressing because every person in their life is pressuring them to stop breastfeeding and give formula to their baby.

After devoting my career to helping mothers achieve their goals of as much breastfeeding as they can, from a little to exclusive breastfeeding, I found Hanna Rosin’s article disturbing. I’ve laughed and cried with so many women in my practice who came for my help and desired this for themselves and their babies. Every bit of DNA in a woman tells her this is important and is part of what makes her a woman. That is why it is such an emotionally charged issue. It hurts our ego so much if breastfeeding doesn’t ‘flow’ as expected. Many women close the door on breastfeeding when it is too difficult for them and it is understandable. It is true that breastfeeding is almost effortless to many women, and a severe strain to others. It makes us grieve when a mother who wants to breastfeed with all her heart has severe difficulties such as hormonal issues or insufficient glandular tissue that prevents her from achieving a full milk supply for her baby. She may often work hard to provide all the precious milk she can for her baby and is grateful there is formula that is safe, available and nutritious when she needs it, but she wishes she did not have to use it. She is often jealous of mothers who seem to have an abundance of breastmilk, but decide to stop after a few weeks because they find it an inconvenience.

Please read Peggy O’Mara’s excellent article below “Case Closed”. In her rebuttal to Hanna Rosin she says what I could not find the words to say. The evidence IS there. It IS compelling and conclusive that breastmilk and any amount of breastfeeding is the best for human babies. Formulas are NOT the same. Yes, babies live and grow up and love their mothers if formula fed, I did, but it is not optimal. We are still mammals and each mammal’s milk is different, made for it’s own baby and that baby’s physical needs for it’s best development. No concoction we can make blending animal milk, water, vitamins, minerals, omega 3’s and now probiotics, can match what each mother provides for her own baby.

Case Closed: Breast Is Best

Issue 154 – May/June 2009

by Peggy O’Mara, Editor and Publisher

http://mothering.com/guest_editors/quiet_place/quiet_place.html

What helped or hindered your efforts to breastfeed? It surprised many when Centra Health decided to eliminate the lactation consultants from the staff on the OB unit at Virginia Baptist Hospital over a year ago.  The other hospitals close by, Roanoke Memorial, UVA, Martha Jefferson, all have a staff of International Board Certified Lactation Consultants.

Many Mothers tell us of wonderful nurses helping them get breastfeeding off to a good start, but other tell us they got little to no help.  They frequently complain to us that every person, family, friend or professional,  told them to do  something different  about breastfeeding. They come home with their new baby totally confused.  The most upsetting is when a mother came home with a  baby that had never breastfed well, feeding the baby formula, still wanting to breastfeed, and had never been given a workable plan on how to improve their breastfeeding, increase their milk supply or help their baby learn to breastfeed.  Most breastfeeding difficulties are solvable within a few days or weeks with the right plan.

We all have a responsibility to our community to make things better.  Hospitals are extremely busy places.  Everyone knows that our medical facilities and systems are stressed and often professionals are overworked and understaffed.  What that means is we all have to do our part and work WITH our medical system for everyone’s benefit.

Please speak up about your experience on our blog.  As a nurse myself who has worked in 5 different hospitals, I will tell you that change comes from outside easier than from within.  As an employee within an institution, it was so hard to  get things to change.  If any employee pressed too hard for some changes, their job could be at risk.  When a patient makes a positive comment or negative complaint about their experience, things often change FAST!!  The employee and department who did well gets the praise and when there are less than satisfactory comments, people are notified and corrective actions taken.  The patient is the person with their insurance company that pays the bills of the hospital.

It is hard sometimes for new parents to understand all their rights, responsibilities, and choices.  Please know you DO have responsibilities and choices in Lynchburg. You, as the parent, the caregiver and protector of your baby have a responsibility to learn about childbirth and breastfeeding thoroughly BEFORE the baby comes.  The baby is counting on you to know what to do and how to find and ask for what you need to care for him/her.  Be as knowledgeable as
parents were over 100 years ago when everyone breastfed.

Realize that in the past, all babies were breastfed, and all the parents grew up seeing ALL babies being breastfed.  That is how they learned.  When they tried to feed a baby animal milk if Mother had a problem, the baby usually died.  It took years to learn how to take an animal’s milk, usually cow milk because cows are readily available, pasteurize the milk, add enough water, vitamins, sugars, fats and minerals so that human babies could live on it from birth.  We did not learn how to do this successfully until the 1920s.  Young Mothers and Fathers knew A LOT more about breastfeeding then than modern parents do now.

Now parents know ALL about their electronic equipment;  their cell phone and their computer, but very little about their biological equipment. They think for some reason, mothers from previous generations “just did it”.  Well they did just do it, but with a lot of experience and knowledge.

Let us hear from you in our comments section below. What was good and helpful when you had your baby, and what do you think should improve and how?

We are responsible for making our community and its resources the best it can be.  That is why Best Start Parenting Center is available to help provide information and support for your parenting choices and as a community resource.

Check out this link. What do you think is the most objectionable parts of the body that ought to be covered at all times. This writer thinks feet are the ugliest.

http://birthlove.cyclzone.com/pages/stories/bf_humor.html

Ladies,

A word about pacifiers: Several mothers have come to Best Start the last few days very worried about their milk supply. They are very intent on how often and long they SHOULD nurse their babies during the day. When asked they all say they were warned “Don’t let that baby use you as a pacifier,” so when the baby lingers at the breast for a feeding, or wants to breastfeed again just a short while after ‘finishing’, they rely on the pacifier to prevent the awful consequences of being “used as a pacifier.”
They are drinking gallons of water, drinking Mother’s Milk Tea, and willing to use a breastpump more to increase their milk supply but afraid of allowing the baby to breastfeed more than the prescribed time.

Please understand that pacifiers are a recent invention. Most mothers throughout history have not had them available nor had ways to keep them clean all the time.
Babies want to suck a lot because they are made that way, and that is what makes a mother have lots of milk. Frequent sucking with Mom stimulates her milk supply to keep growing with baby’s growth.

The most frequent complaint mothers call us with is low milk supply or fear of low milk supply. Don’t be afraid of spoiling your baby by breastfeeding a lot. Your baby is designed to breastfeed a lot and you are designed to respond and make lots of milk.

If you don’t have The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding come get a copy at Best Start or your public library. A good understanding of what we call “supply and demand” will help you respond when people admonish you not to let your baby “use” you. Your baby “uses” you for everything! Your baby can’t do anything by himself for months.

Your baby is “using you as a mother”.
Don’t let your baby “use a pacifier as a mother”. He/she needs you!

Jane

Have you thought about what it means to be a mammal?
Read this mothers comments about her own thoughts over the years.

I believe it’s great to be a mammal.

http://www.thisibelieve.org/dsp_ShowEssay.php?uid=60358&lastname=Mulford&yval=0&start=0

There is so much distressing news in the media every day. So many people are affected by layoffs and downturns in the economy. The key to emotional survival tough financial times is to have a supportive, close family. Research always shows the people who do the best in life, have close relationships with their “family.”

“Family” may or may not be blood relatives, but you will notice those people who have lots of people who they care about and who care for them are happier and more stable than those who don’t. It may not change your finances, but it will help your outlook and peace of mind. It is having others who love and support us and being there for others that makes our lives happy and worth living. Also it is knowing HOW to form these deep meaningful relationships that shapes our lives. These strong bonds seems to ‘insulate’ us from many of life’s woes, many physical illnesses and emotional distress. I have known too many people who fail at this and even though they “have it all” they are miserable and spend their adult lives looking for happiness, often when it is staring them in the face.

The whole reason I have been so driven to start and continue Best Start Parenting Center is that helping parents understand and begin their loving relationship with their babies starts them on the road of good, gentle, effective, healthy parenting. This builds trust and love and starts the growing family on it’s path of building their strong, loving, life-long ties. I have so many mothers that come into Best Start and tell me what a blessing it has been in their lives to have a better childbirth experience and to be able to do their best with breastfeeding and parenting. Often they embarrass their 10, 15, or 20 year old by saying: “This is the lady who helped me breastfeed you!” That usually happens about the time we think Best Start can’t go on, but then I realize we can. People always helped and supported me throughout my ups and downs in life.

Hopefully Best Start will be a positive influence in some way for your life. I always tell Moms that “Now you are ambassadors. Go out and support others throughout your life. Tell them they can have good childbirth, breastfeeding and parenting experiences. Help everyone, even when you are a 90 year old walking with your cane, encourage young parents. Help them to search out and get good, reliable, trustworthy information. Praise their efforts and tell them it is worth it!”

Jane

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